In everyday life, we do this and that often without thinking twice about why.
Why is that? Are we driven by a force not known to us, something outside ourselves, which we can’t control?
The answer is very often: We just keep on doing what we always have done, what we think others expect of us, what we think others demands of us. And often, not always, we say that we have no choice, we have to do this or that.
Well, that’s not entirely true, is it? Who is it then, that picks up the hammer and nails that nail? Ooh, is it you? But who decided to do that? Your brother, wife, mother, father, boss…. who was it? Probably is none of them controlling your hand to pick that hammer, probably is your brain telling your hand to do it. Agree?
And then you can say, but if I didn’t do it my boss would have fired me.
No we’re talking. Because your boss told you to do that, you got to choices: You could either pick up the hammer, nail the nail, get your payment and keep your job. Or: You could refuse, get fired, have no more money coming in. So, you choose the second option, despite the fact that you said you rather be sitting with your other colleagues and chat. Well, given the possible outcomes, you made your choice, based on which outcome you wanted.
You see my point of view?
The choice is always yours, you don’t always get to pick the best possible solution, but you get to pick the best outcome given the situation, and that’s what I’m talking about. It’s always a choice, and it’s always yours to make.
Think about that the next time you think you have to do something. No, you don’t, it’s your choice, but you might do it anyway, because it results in your best outcome.