Christmas is a feeling

Whatever you believe or wherever you are, Christmas can be special.

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Here are some tips for making the Christmas feeling the most important:

  • Make yourself a list of what Christmas really means to you
    • Include the memories, feelings, smells, sounds(music) and people
    • Remember all the little things you like to do, making decorations, writing Christmas cards, visiting an old aunt…….
  • Visualize every element on your list, as if it’s here right now, and find out what small things you can do every day until Christmas to get back the good feeling.

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Remember, Christmas is all about feeling and memories, and nothing about big presents and stress. It’s your time to relax and be in the feeling.

The KEY to achieve whatever you desire

The KEY to achieve whatever you desire, is to do more than just wishing it.

A wish is merely a hope for something to happen, magically falling down from the stars to fiks your life. And to be honest, thatˋs not going to happen. YOU have to DO something.

If you really want to achieve something you have to make a deep commitment to yourself.

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YOU have to make a decision, right here right now, that this (Your Goal) is something you will achieve, and that you will do anything to make it happen.

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Donˋt give a damn about what other people say, you are the one to decide what to achieve in your life. Go for it.

The decision is of absolute importance. The moment you have decided, you will fell you are on the right track. Your body will suddenly be ready to do the things you have commited yourself to do to achieve your goal.

Did you know that the most important attribute Napoleon Hill discovered, when he intervjued the richest and most powerfull people of his time, was their ability to take quick decisions?

Did you know that a recent study, of todays powerfull people, found exactly the same attribute to explain how they have reached their power.

Itˋs no coincidence, weˋre designed that way. When we have decided for something, and we comitt ourselves to do whatever it takes to achieve it, then it all happens for us, everything falls into place.

Whethere your goal is to make a lot of money and become rich (as in the background for Napoleon Hills book), or your goal is to reduce your weight, find yourself a partner, find the dreamjob, become world  champion in Golf or Chess, the way to achieve it is the same:

  • Know your Goal
  • Make the decision to reach your goal
  • Comitt to do whatever it takes to achieve your goal
  • Get moving

 

Change your life in 24 hours

Go 24 hours without complaining.

Repeat after 24 hours.

 

  • Have you ever thought about how often you are complaining about something?

Anything?

Most of us complain about what people around us do, what politicians are doing and not doing….. about what is not perfect in our lives, and saying that

“If only this or that happend, everything would be perfect”

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  • Everybody complains about something, at least once in awhile

I do too, and then I catch myself doing so, which somtimes make me a bit embarassed.

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You can become more conscious about your complaints and what to do instead. You will see that this exercise is effective, and will lead to a great change in your life. AND it will be FUN.

  • This i what to do
    • Start the day deciding that you will complete the day without complaining (not even once)
    • If  you notice you are about to complain, reset your mind and reframe (what can you say/think instead)
    • When the evening comes, summarize to yourself how your day  has been different, you will be astonished
    • If you didnˋt make it, do it again the next day until you make it
    • Repeat as often as possible or needed. Itˋs fantastic.

YOU can choose to be happy

When your motivation is low, your feeling of happiness is not very high and your not in a very good mood.

Where does this come from?

It can come from a lot of places, but for it to affect you, YOU have to allow it to do so.

It’s a choice, and you are the one to make the choice. Whether you choose to be happy or you choose not to, it’s your choice.

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Decide to be happy, decide what things you want in your life, decide how bad experiences will affect you, decide which good experiences YOU will create in your life and make it happen.

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Look at your future, whats there, which options, and choose the options that creates a good, happy feeling for you. Focus on those outcomes and go for it.

The ONE thing you can do to get a better day

Make somebody smile

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Sounds simple, and it is simple. And if you do it, it will make your day better to. You will get happier and you will smile as well.

Heres how you can do it:

  • Say hello to a stranger you pass on the street, and smile while passing
  • Hold the door for someone
  • Hold the elevator for someone
  • Offer your seat on the bus or subway to someone who needs it
  • Call an old friend, for no particular reason
  • Give compliments, to friends and colleages
  • Smile to everyone you meet
  • Send a weird text msg to someone you love

You can probably think of more ways making someone smile, theese are just some of my suggestions

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So, now itˋs up to you. Just go out there and do it.

 

4 habbits to make your life happy

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  • Write a list of all the things you look forward to
    • Short term and   long term.
    • Reveiw the list every morning, adding new things  and removing thoose not relevant anymore.
    • Be sure you at all times are aware of everything that is on the list.

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  • Write a list of all the things you are grateful for
    • Review the list every evening, adding new things you are grateful for.
    • Remember theese things when something in life turns out not so good.

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  • Get other people to smile
    • Whenever you get other people to smile, that will trigger a smile and good feelings for yourself too. So do it all the time, make it a habbit.

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  • Get out and exercise
    • Fresh air and exercising makes your body produce more endorphins (happiness hormones).
    • Get out and exercise at least 3 times a week to keep your happiness on top.

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7 important lessons I have learned in life

Not a day goes by, without me experiencing something that gives me a new understanding of life, and that can come to use later on i life. But when I sit down and think about it there are some experiences that’s been more important to my life than other

Here are some of the experiences I have made, and which I think have made the biggest impact in my way of seeing and understanding the world.

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  • People all over the world are, in the large part, very much alike

When you travel the world, observe and talk to people, there are som fundamentals that you will see all over the world.

Most people, rich and poor, communists and kapitalists, chinieese and european all wish for themselves:

  • Love, someone to love and who loves you back
  • Worth, experiencing that their lives means somthing and have value
  • Safety, for now and for the future
  • Joy and happiness, something to do or experience that gives joy

Although groups in society, statesleaders, politicians and others use a lot of time and effort trying to create a picture of “us and them”, about opposites and more, itˋs the similarities among people that I see as striking when I meet people around the world. Everybody wishes basicly for the same, a happy life.

  • We create our own destiny

A common excuse for a lot of people is that destiny is to blame. “Iˋm just born unfortunate, thatˋs my life, my destiny”

To be honest, thats CRAP and BULLSHIT. Your destiny is created by your own thougths. Obviously there are some people who experience more sad and horrible things in life, but………., how you choose to think about the future is something thatˋs created inside your mind. You can change it right here, right now, if you choose to.

You can not control coincidences, but how you choose to think about them, and how you choose to let them affect you, that you can control with your own mind.

  • No matter how much or little money you have, you can live a fantastic life

I have met a lot of different people, both here at home, and when travelling. I have met billionaires, and I have met people with practically no money at all on the contryside in eastern Europe. One thing that strikes me when I think about theese people, is that the lifes they are living dosent seem to be determined by how much money they have.

In truth, I see that the happiest people I have met are the poorest. You dont necessarily have to be rich to be happy.

  • What we have, we become accustomed to so quickly that we forget to apreciate it

In parts of the world a lot of people go shopping just for the feeling it gives in the moment to by something new. Some new clothes, shoes, a phone……. All theese are things that might give a shortlived happiness when we by it, and then itˋs over.

Some things gives us a happy felling for a few hours, othher things for a few days. What all theese have in common is that they only create a shorttime happinessfeeling, which can be repeated only by continuing to by new stuff. This is because we get accustomed to our new things very fast.

 

New people in our lives, girlfriends\boyfriends, children, friends….. we apreciate for much longer. Unfortunatley we become accustomed to them as well, something that makes it easy for us to forget their good qualities, the qualities that made us joyfull and happy in the beginning. At this moment we tend to see more of the qualities which annoys us.

This is where itˋs imporent for us to be very conscious of what we are doing. If we donˋt, we can easily loose all the good qualities along with loosing the person. And thatˋs just because we are accustomed to thoose qualities and are taking them for granted.

Itˋs importent to sit down and think over all the good things in life, end become more concious about what we really want to keep in our lives. This is the way we can continue to apreciate all the things we have become accustomed to.

  • Your possesions possesses you

During my life I have noticed that the more possesions I have (car, house, caravan, money and so on), the more I let my self worry about loosing  them.

Everywhere people are like this, and the richest people are usually the worst ones. You have probably noticed how importent it is to rich people to move money to low-tax countries, or that they choose to move t thoose countries to pay less tax. Can you imagine, having your money decide where you will live? I will rather let the joy and happiness decide where I will live.

Have you ever thought about the fact that when you borrow US 300-400K to by a house, you get tied up to tha job, a job you not necessarily even like?

Have you noticed how some people, who own nothing, live a happy and joyfull life, and are travelling the world and enjoying themselfes?

Have you noticed that people owning a house, a cabin, a boat and maybe one more cabin, always has to spend all weekends, all hollidays to maintain their possesions?

Our possesions take away our freedom and possesses us insted.

  • We talk to much, and do to little.

Most people, including me, is very good at talking about thing we want to do. Things we want, if only we had a little extra time, a little extra money, a little more of…………..

I was like that, I let the smallest things stop me. I had a dream about writing, beeing a Coach and speaker, about travelling more.

Then, finally I started doing it instead. I just decided to do it. I decided to become a Coach, I took som e extra education, read a lot and started. Me and my wife decided to go to China, something we had talked about for years, then I just bought plane tickets, and we went, the hole family. I decided to become a speaker, and did my first speaking, very exciting. I decided to create a course and went on with it. I decided to write, and I started.

Itˋs all about decision.

Now, we travel more and Iˋm doing the job of my dreams. It is a dream and Iˋm living it.

Stop talking, start doing. You will never regret.

  • The things in life with the highest value, canˋt be bought for money

Iˋm not sure what the value of our house is, but approximately US 450K. A very ordinary value for a small norwegian house.

But…… Itˋs not the house that has the highest value in my life. My wife and my two girls can not be measured in money, without them my life wouldnt have a very big value. And when we start talking about all the memories we have together, the value of thoose are priceless.

Then theres the rest of the family, all friends and the people we know. None of them can be measured in money or be bought for money.

If all the things, possesions and money gets lost, I still have my family, friends and the memories. The greatest values lies there, and thoose no one can take away from me.  If I loose them, I have myself to blame for not taking good care of them. I choose to take good care of them.